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It’s time we talked about violence in m/m romance

CW: discussion of domestic abuse, sexual violence, intimate partner violence.

Almost a third of sexual minority men, and one half of women, report being a victim of domestic abuse. For psychological abuse the figure is even higher: over half of queer men and 75 percent of queer women report being victimised by a romantic partner. A 2013 study by the CDC estimated 4.1 million LGB Americans have experienced domestic abuse in their lifetimes.

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Understanding Sexuality in a Historical Context

History is not a monolith, and queerfolk have been around since before men started scratching hunting scenes on cave walls. Yet much of what we know of queer history comes from the voices of our oppressors. We have records of churches and governments condemning those who are other, of hangings and burnings and pillories. Living so often on the fringes, we have left precious little that is positive behind. For queerfolk throughout much of history, being invisible was the only way to be safe.

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Protecting Your Assets in the Digital Age

I had to get the battery in my Macbook replaced recently. It had been on the blink and flashing a “replace soon” warning for at least six months, it was at 1500-odd cycles, and my whole top case was getting glitchy. My mic had stopped working and keys decided if and when they were going to register (and how many times) on a case-by-case basis. It was time.

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Book Recs: Lawbreakers

When we think about recent(ish) queer history, most of the stories that come to us are of lawbreakers. Some, like Oscar Wilde, are more famous than others (Peter Wildeblood). Like Alan Turing, we can turn them into martyrs, the founding fathers upon whose shoulders modern gay rights movements stand. While Read more…